It's Not Rocket Science.

I recently read an article on a blog called "The Reasonable Bachelor." Basically, it's telling women how they can tell if they're the "Jump Off" or not.  I'm not particularly fond of that term, but anyway... For those of you who don't know what it means, he defines it this way: "We all know that in the pop culture world, 'Jump Offs' are sexual partners with no strings attached.  A person who you are 'into' physically to some degree but not someone who you have decided to give your full attention to, as is customary in a relationship."

He lists these 4 tips: 1. Make a man know who you are.  2. Stop equating the sort of attention that you get from a guy who you are sleeping with to the sort of attention that a man gives to his special lady. 3. Unless a man says he's into you and that he wants you to be his lady, stop assuming that is where your friendship is going.  4. You don't have to drive the communication for a guy that is really into you.

Of course, the article is interesting and offers good information for women (he goes into much greater detail).   But I couldn't help thinking: Ladies, we already know this, don't we?  Isn't this the same advice that our grandmothers & mothers gave us... "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" or "There a certain girls that a man will take home to meet his Mama and those he won't."

If you allow yourself to be used by a man, then that's exactly what he'll do. Furthermore, if you allow yourself to be used by anyone, then don't be surprised when it happens. I mean, really... this is not a hard concept to grasp. It's not rocket science.

This is why I try to foster self-esteem in young girls as early as possible. Because even with grown women, we still have a long way to go.


The article can be found at www.thereasonablebachelor.com 
"Tired of being the short time lover...looking to be wifey."