10 Ways to Stay Motivated to Reach Your Goals

As an entrepreneur, you have to make your own way.  You have to do all the work, you have to "wear all the hats" and if anyone's going to encourage you... well, most of the time you have to do that too.

Needless to say, it's not always easy to stay motivated.  One thing that really works for me is to talk to other entrepreneurs. They know exactly what I'm going through.

You may be reading this, thinking... "I'm not an entrepreneur."  I know.

That's why I suggest you read this post that I found:

"10 Ways to Stay Motivated to Reach Your Goals."  written by Kara Stout on the blog 'Girls Guide To.'  If you need a few tips to keep you going, this should help.

"Miss Lady"

I know you're wondering what this post is all about.  Well, I'm glad you asked & feel free to share this one with a girl or a mom who may need to read it.   That's the way guys used to try to get your attention.  "Hey, hey, Miss Lady... let me talk to you for a minute."  Do they still say that? Okay, let's get back to the topic.

I see so many young girls (under 18) wearing extremely tight or 'barely there' clothing. Many of them are, let's say 'not a perfect size 6' and their flesh is spilling out over the top of their blouse & out of their jeans.  But they just wiggle & jiggle around with a wide grin on their face.  They have no idea how they really look and the reason they're smiling is because they get a lot of attention from young guys, grown men & basically everyone.  They don't know that it's not because they're so cute; it's because they are serving it up on a platter. Where are their mothers? I wish they knew that they don't have to do anything extra to get noticed by the right type of guy.

Some girls do know exactly what they're doing. But here's something every girl may not understand: men really don't discriminate when it comes to bare skin. They don't care what your face looks like, they don't care what's inside your head. If you're showing flesh, they're looking. And a lot of them will make a move. And why not? You're inviting the attention you get. It's just that some girls don't recognize inappropriate attention.

There are a few who get angry when a guy says something indecent. But listen, Miss Lady, if you're not that kind of girl... then cover yourself up.  I heard an older minister say, "If you're not selling anything, you ought not to be advertising it."

[stepping down from my soap box] I had to get that off my chest. You may return to your regularly scheduled activities.

HOT TOPIC: Scandalous

Who isn't watching ABC's "Scandal" these days?  I watch it. It's very entertaining, suspenseful & well written... it's a good show.  So much is being said & written about the show lately.  For those of you who don't know: It's a political drama, the two main characters are Olivia Pope & President Fitzgerald Grant. Olivia owns a crisis management firm and is a former member of the President's campaign staff.  Oh and by the way, she just happens to be having an affair with the POTUS... and he's married w/children & one on the way.

I've read where some women feel that the affair makes Olivia the most powerful woman in the world because she has the closest "relationship" with the president.  Some people say Christians shouldn't even watch the show.  I've also read that black men don't appreciate the "Jefferson/Hemings" connotation. This show has become very controversial.

Here's my take on it: First of all, let me state for the record, I generally don't root for the 'home-wrecker'. Which is why I'm not the least bit interested in the affair. I can't help but identify with the wife.  Even if she is a shrew, he is still her husband & the father of her children.  I watch for the plot twists, the colorful characters & I like to see how Pope & Assoc. get their clients out of their sticky situations.

Some women are hoping Fitz leaves his wife for Olivia. What about you?  Do you watch because of the torrid liaison?  Do you love it or hate it?  Do you watch at all?

One way you can tell if something good, is that it gets people talking.  Like I said, it's a good show. Shonda Rhimes is on her game.

All the Single Ladies...

I was having a conversation with a group of women, most of whom are married. And a friend who is single (with no kids) asked, "How do you do it?"  She went on to say, "I care for my sister's children while she's at work and when she gets home everyday, I am exhausted.  How do you take care of your kids, husband, work and everything else you have to do. I wouldn't have the energy."

Most of us agreed that, "You just do what you have to do."  And that we get a lot of help from our husbands as well. Yes, there is school, homework, soccer, football, basketball, band, dance class, plays, etc. Not to mention work, church, social events...the list goes on & on. And yes, we are bone tired, sleepy, & stressed out.  But it has to be done so we do it.

Then the conversation changed when someone said, "The women who really have it hard are single mothers."  We all said we don't know how how they do it. Although, I'm sure they would say the same thing we did, "You do what you have to do."

As women, we don't encourage each other as much as we should. We need to acknowledge & appreciate just how strong we really are. So to all you responsible single mothers out there who are "holding it down" for your family, this may not mean much coming from me but... I Salute You! Give yourselves a hand.

HOT TOPIC: "Kimye"

Okay, by now the world knows that Kim Kardashian & Kanye West are expecting a baby.  What I don't understand is why so many people are outraged, disappointed or hurt.  What's new or different about their situation?  A lot of celebrity couples have children out of wedlock and Kim is not the first to "hook up" with someone else before the divorce is final.  Isn't this normal behavior for this crowd? What did we (as a society) expect?  Did we really think these two were going to have a traditional relationship?

When everybody's talking about things like this in the public airwaves, I use it as an opportunity to teach my girls what not to do.  My oldest is in Jr. High now, and we usually talk about what's going on in the world (thank God she listens to me).  I try not to shy away from any subject because I want her to get her  information from me instead of friends who don't know what they're talking about.  We also talk a lot about being able to respect someone's talent without condoning their behavior.  If we judged artists, musicians, singers, athletes, etc... by the way they conducted their lives, we couldn't like 99% of the entertainers in the history of ever.

I guess what it all boils down to is this: I couldn't care less what Kim & Kanye do.  The truth is, I'm going to go back to not watching Kim's show and when Kanye drops another hit everybody's going to forget about this anyway. SMH.